Dating men on the rebound

27-Aug-2015 20:35

If they can't tell you much of anything about themselves besides retelling the trauma of the breakup, it's a pretty clear sign they haven't taken the time to heal and reassess who they are without their ex.

Maybe you're being told all the time out of the blue that you're so much better than their ex, or you can tell they're silently keeping a running tab between you and them.

If this bae was dumped out of the blue and left reeling, chances are higher that they haven't had enough time to heal before committing to someone new.

Maybe they've already decided on what side of the bed you'll sleep on, or force the creation of "adorable" inside jokes.

Here, a few clues that you're a rebound to your fresh-out-of-a-relationship partner.

Not that you're not amazing and lovable or anything, but they barely know you well enough to even that yet.

Are they calling you The One even though you just met, like, ten seconds ago?

In quiet moments, between basking in the adoration, do you feel sort of like a blank canvas they're projecting their feelings onto?

Do they cry on your shoulder about their heartbreak a lot?

Does their obsession with you abruptly morph into a cold distance that is way more dramatic than your typical end-of-honeymoon settling into each other? Most people have hobbies, life goals, that establishes who they are as individuals.

Right after a breakup, it's easy to feel like those things have changed or disappeared completely.

Make no mistake, it is not some great honor that you have been chosen to nurse their feelings back to health, and no, you cannot "fix" them.

It's easy to assume that once they've finally healed from the breakup, they'll look to you as the valiant goddess who swept into their life at just the right time to make it all better, but odds are they'll just sort of forget you exist.

Do they cry on your shoulder about their heartbreak a lot?Does their obsession with you abruptly morph into a cold distance that is way more dramatic than your typical end-of-honeymoon settling into each other? Most people have hobbies, life goals, that establishes who they are as individuals.Right after a breakup, it's easy to feel like those things have changed or disappeared completely.Make no mistake, it is not some great honor that you have been chosen to nurse their feelings back to health, and no, you cannot "fix" them.It's easy to assume that once they've finally healed from the breakup, they'll look to you as the valiant goddess who swept into their life at just the right time to make it all better, but odds are they'll just sort of forget you exist.On the surface, your relationship is growing at warp speed.